Condolences to the families of innocent lives taken away prematurely

You've probably heard the news, or if not yet, check this out:


http://news.blogs.cnn.com/2012/12/14/shooting-reported-at-connecticut-elementary-school/


The man is obviously a criminal. He is dead now, and apparently, he took his own life, after shooting 20 young children aged 5 to 10 years, and 6 elementary school teachers (including the principal). To others, he is an asshole, a coward. Some have said that "evil" came to that community on this sad day, which is true. But it was a long road for evil, if you know how evil works. To me, more importantly, it's a matter of parenting gone awfully wrong. I am not sure if people are intentionally ignoring this fact, or they just don't seem to grasp that it's as simple as that. If we all strive to become really good parents (now or in the future), and our children learn about what love really is from us, they can only give that love back to society. "Properly" loved kids would not do this. Let alone kill their parents. The suspect is 20 years old. He is still young. I've long thought that the proper voting age is 25. 21 is still too young. Much younger still is 20. In any case, becoming a good parent, like many things, does not happen overnight. It takes years. You start learning about good parenting while you're young -- from your parents. Parents should likewise raise their children to become good parents themselves in the future. Things happen -- suicides, mass killings, and so on -- because they were not parented well. There are exceptions, like I know people who saw the wrong in their parents and so, instead, they strove to become better persons and better future parents. But that still doesn't mean that we can just be whoever we want to be and let our children grow up the same. We are adults. We have responsibilities. Our most important responsibility is parenting. If we can't take that responsibility, we should have a second thought about becoming one. If you're already there, take extra time to learn about it. It is our contribution to better societies, world peace, the end of violence and hate, racism, misunderstandings, and so on. For the religious out there, it is what God wants us to do.

So, how do we become good parents?

That's a very long topic, that might be worth writing one long book for, and need to be learned for years. But I'd start with recognizing whether you are actually one or ready to be one.

God bless the souls of the innocent lives taken away prematurely. Condolences to their families. Let us leave it to God to judge the person (or persons) who did wrong.