Wednesday, February 25, 2009

[reactions+reflections] [Movie Review] The Curious Case of Benjamin Button

It's not a great movie.  But since a lot of people like it, you may want to watch it yourself.  It could wait on DVD or HBO.

But there's something you can realize from the movie that is so true - as people get older, they lose their adult-like abilities and turn to becoming child-like.  We become smaller when we're older.  We lose hair.  We are unable to cross the street by ourselves anymore.  We find it difficult to outrun the middle-aged people.  Of course, the only difference between little baby boy and grandpa is grandpa's eaten a whole lot more, there's been a lot more fatigue, and so there's more skin, and more damaged parts.  But they're just the same.  I like my grandmas - I got to know them when they were older.  When they were younger, they were... different.  I like babies too.  I took care of two cousins when they were babies.  But when they get older, they become... different.

All I am saying is that this is so true: "from dust we came and to dust we shall return."

A blessed Ash Wednesday to all  of you.

Sunday, February 22, 2009

[wikiHow] How to Be a Millionaire

Originally on http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Millionaire
from wikiHow - The How to Manual That You Can Edit

Regardless of where you go in the world, money is the basic universal measurement for being "rich", or becoming a millionaire. And it seems like everyone wants to be a millionaire these days.

Steps

  1. Open a savings account. Having a savings account is one of the many ways where you can set your money up to work for you. Your initial deposit of money grows whether or not you make additional deposits by interest. Learn the different types of accounts, including accounts like IRAs.
  2. Buy stocks. If you are gung-ho for individual stocks, you should buy stocks of the companies whose products and services you use or purchase. One of the best ways to invest in individual stocks is through an investment club; you may want to consider forming one with your friends.
  3. Buy mutual funds. Mutual funds are really an investment of other investments. When you own a mutual fund, you actually own the securities (stocks, bonds, cash) within the mutual. With mutual funds, you are pooling your money with other investors and diversifying your investment.
  4. Audition for game shows. Game shows earn their money by the audience, not the contestants.
  5. Find a "system" that has been proven to make people become millionaires. The top five producers of millionaires today are: technology - internet marketing, direct sales, home-based business, product distribution, and investments (stocks, bonds, real estate investment / development).
  6. Find a mentor who has walked the walk and seek advice. Surround yourself with already-made millionaires.

Tips

  • Don't use a credit card much, all of the excessive spending will come back to haunt you, and you may end up in debt. Try getting a debit card for daily purchases, they're a lot easier to deal with. Use your credit card only for emergencies, and to establish your good credit.
  • Try not to take any big loans, because that's "big" money that you'll just have to pay back, and you could end up in debt for that also.
  • Control your expenses. You get rich on the difference between that and what you make
  • Make it a game. Looking for opportunities to make money is supposed to be fun. Never sweat it.
  • Read. The more you know the more you will perceive to be possible, the more you can make.
  • Make it about something else than money. It has to be fun. Fair enough you are doing it to become financially well off but few wealthy get off on that alone.
  • Make friends with people who share the same goals and values. It will reduce your downtime, and give you pleasure when you are down.
  • Make friends with people who are different than you. They can be the greatest source of inspiration and guidance if you are open to their different perspective.
  • Help others. Learn to be a caring individual that makes the world better for people around yourself. It will lead to more positivity coming your way. Also, donating to charities can come back to you in the form of tax deductions.
  • Plan. Define what you want, Act on it, and Evaluate often to see how you are going.
  • It is OK to be cheap, but never be cheap on things that give you value.
  • Never invest more than you are willing to lose. This is particularly important when you start. The older and more experienced you get the less risk you are likely to take, or the better you are capable of taking it.
  • Think a lot on why you want to become rich, what exactly you want to buy, what lifestyle you want. Make it specific, and date your time for having it and why it matters to you
  • Money represents value. You might come to the understanding that you make money on giving something that other value more than what they pay. You spend the money to get something that is more valuable.
  • If possible, make the maximum out your retirement fund provided either by your government or your work. Then proceed to put as much money in to an account like a Roth IRA.
  • Whoever said money can't buy happiness has never driven a sports car!

Warnings

  • Unless you are the wealthiest person in the world, there will always be someone with more money than you; there will always be someone with less money than you.
  • Be prepared to make choices that are different than most people around you.
  • Keep riches and wealth in perspective i.e. don't kill the goose that lays the golden egg. In other words, avoid neglecting the source of the wealth e.g. decent health.
  • Money doesn't always buy happiness (but it can take care of almost everything else).
  • Never steal money. So don't get any ideas about robbing the bank.
  • Do not brag about how much money you have. Thieves will be more likely to target you. Consider investing in a means of personal defense such as a martial art or a firearm.

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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

[repeat] Once Minutos, by Paulo Coelho

Here's one chocolate chip in the latest cookie by Paulo Coelho:

"You see that glass of anisette (wine/cocktail) before you?" he went on. "Now, you just see the anisette. I, on the other hand, because I need to be inside everything I do, see the plant it came from, the storms the plant endured, the hand that picked the grain, the voyage by ship from another land, the smells and colors with which the plant allowed itself to be imbued before it was placed in the alcohol. I I were to paint this scene, I would paint all those things, even though, when you saw the painting, you would think you were looking at a simple glass of anisette."

The person speaking was an artist. The person who created the artist is Coelho. And God created Coelho.

Overall, everyone's said it... It's a "daring" new book. To me, it's a Coelho classic. If you've read about Santiago, Veronika, Fatima, and Elijah, you don't want to miss Maria. Grab a copy now. Mine is for sale for $24.95. Hehe, I was absolutely kidding.

[sub-labels: CPC books]

Sunday, February 15, 2009

the RONJIE.COM blogworld

what were formerly individual blogs became "blog threads" when RONJIE.COM took on the "e-zine" format, similar to sections/columns of a magazine or newspaper.  we used blogger's "labels" feature, which is the equivalent of tags in other blogging webware (e.g. wordpress, livejournal), to distinguish between sections.

with the return of RONJIE.COM to just being my blog, some sections have moved to their own blog space.  what has left the main RONJIE.COM website are:
  • ronjie.com around the web (RAW) - daily links to websites, files, videos, photos, whatever, etc., anywhere, somewhere on the web that is cool, interesting, or useful
  • FWD - interesting forwarded e-mails. now with attachments!
  • TXT - a variation of FWD, this time, forwarded text messages (SMS)! (currently included under FWD actually)
  • feature art/photo - featured art work or photo by ronjie.com and friends (1 NEW POST!)
  • coach potato's corner - (CPC for short) ronjie's rave reviews of movies, books, music, tv series, events, blogs, and so on (2 NEW POSTS!)
  • coach potato's consumer watch - reviews of restaurants, retail stores, service providers, hotels, and other similar establishments which violate consumer protection laws (3 NEW POSTS!)
  • coach potato's traffic watch - problems with traffic laws and traffic enforcement officers
  • ronjie-san wa nihon e ikimasu ne (japan2005) - re-live ronjie's 60 days of misadventures as a first timer in japan
what's left here at RONJIE.COM are:
  • marketplace - bargain items for sale
  • prustrations - purpose, prophecy, and philosophy
  • thoughts - deep into the inner brain cells of ronjie.com (random musings)
  • who is ronjie? - all about ronjie.com, including filled out free surveys and questionnaires from the web
  • repeat - repeated past articles from the old ronjie.com, "for the whole world to see", and from other ronjie.com websites :-D
  • ronj-blog - miscellaneous stuff; actually this is also the title of ronjie.com version 1.0. :-D
  • what is the matrix the movie? - a discontinued blog about the matrix trilogy
  • announcements - anything general about this blog and related updates - such as this post.
  • wikiHow - selected how-to articles from wikiHow
these are still here on RONJIE.COM but are scheduled to have their own blog spaces:
these are still in the works:
  • coach potato's travel compass - reviews of people, places, food, and culture
  • randm desserts and eats - reviews of those sweet stuff
  • ronjie.com software essentials (SWE) - essential software for your PC
  • ronjie.com/tech/webessentials (WEB-e) - essential websites
  • ronjie.com/tech/macessentials (MAC-e) - essential software for your Mac
  • life essentials - life hacks, things we should know about life
elsewhere there is...

Saturday, February 14, 2009

ronjie.com is slimming down...

ronjie is slimming down... ...to just a blog!  is it because it is valentine's?  NO!  no more blog-o-zines or whatever you want (or i wanted) to call it.  

RONJIE.COM will be all about me. ehehe... :-D  

which means you'll still find here what I think about books, movies, love, life, other blogs and websites, God and His Word and His beautiful creations, ronjie, interesting photos, places, things to buy/sell, tv shows, musicals/plays/theatrical shows, restaurants, retail establishments and service providers, gadgets... everything!

TXT, FWD, and RAW will now be moving to another address.  the 'did you know?' section will still exist here though.  but it may just have a home of its own.  all coach potato posts will still be here also, but they may just have homes of their own also.  my japan2005 blog will go back to its old home.  and... FOG (free online games) and different comics posts will still be here on occassion.  right now, i've already set up ronjie.com's mobile essentials portal. visit http://ronjie-m.blogspot.com/.  in the near future, i will be setting up WE, WaE, and maybe ME.  that's windows (software) essentials, web apps essentials, and mac essentials.   

RONJIE.COM will just be... my blog!

the downside is... we don't know how regular the posts are going to be! (RONJIE.COM might not become weekly anymore... maybe monthly?)  so for now, just go about with your boring life (:-D) and wait til all these things start to roll out and come to fruition.  i'll let you know again if everything's all set up!

[FWD] ARAW NG MGA PUSO

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!:-)

Sunday, February 8, 2009

[TXT] i love...

sarap sa pakiramdam pag may ka-"i love you" ka,

o kaya yung may nagtatanong, "kumain ka na ba?"

sabay sabing, "ingat ka ah"

lalo na pag may sinasabihan ka, "i miss you."

pero kung

wala...

don't lose hope..

pwede namang..

i love me! kumain na ba me? ingat me ah. i miss me! wer na me?dito na me!

haha! self-supporting diba? Ü

[TXT] simple quote

Here's a
simple quote to
remember:


"mas madaling ngumiti kahit di ka masaya kaysa ipaliwanag kung bakit malungkot ka.."

- so true!

[repeat] [Movie Review] Shall We Dance? (Hollywood Version)

This is a repeat of an article originally posted on 2/19/05. I do not necessarily reflect the same views or beliefs.


If you're a romantic like... this person I know very, very, very well...

WATCH "SHALL WE DANCE?"!

Well, I've seen the Richard Gere, Susan Sarandon, and J-Lo version, and of course, the original was Japanese...

Seriously, it is one of the best and most recommendable romance-comedies of all time! I'd put it up there with... Hmmmmmm... Now I can't remember any other romance-comedies that could measure up. Is that any indication for you? ;-)

Seriously serious now... For the average consumer like me, there's nothing wrong with the movie. I would have loved to have seen this with someone I was in love with. ...Shocks. There, I reminded myself again, damn.

Alright, I'm not professional sounding anymore. I drank three bottles of Colt Ice. 6.5% alcohol by volume.

But let me clarify something. NO, it's not the alcohol.

Well I guess you wouldn't trust me in this post anymore. Just ask someone who has seen the movie. And then you will think, seriously, "Damn, Coach Potato was right! I love this movie!"

Now like all other great romance movies, and love stories, and love songs... I hate them, because... I like them too much and they make me... think, and shed some, somehow. I am hopeless.

I am a hopeless romantic and I love this movie! Go watch it and cuddle up!

I'm starting to think of taking dancing lessons.

Seriously drunk somehow,
The Coach Potato

[sub-labels: CPC movies]

[repeat] [Movie Review] Things in Common Q&A

This is a repeat of an article originally posted on 12/14/04. I do not necessarily have the same views or beliefs as when I first wrote this article.


What does Forrest Gump (Tom Hanks) and Great Expectations (Gwyneth Paltrow, Ethan Hawke) have in common?

The main characters (the guys) have both been in love with one and only one girl from their childhood.

What does Matrix Reloaded and Star Wars Episode 2 have in common?

The main characters (Neo and Anakin) are very passionate - about their love (Trinity and Princess/Senator Amidala), and about the thing they're destined to do.

What do the four movies above have in common?

I love them all.

Are you a sissy, hopeless romantic like...me? (???)

Then you'll love the movie Love Actually. It's bloody marvelous. (Pronounced "bludde mahr-v-ls")

[sub-labels: CPC movies]

[FWD] Loooove

When she stares at your mouth
[ Kiss her ]

When she pushes you or hits you cause she thinks she's stronger than you are
[ Grab her and dont let go ]

When she starts cursing at you tryin to act all tough
[ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]

When she's quiet

[ Ask her whats wrong ]

When she ignores you
[ Give her your attention ]

When she pulls away
[ Pull her back ]

When you see her at her worst
[ Tell her she's beautiful ]

When you see her start crying
[Just hold her and dont say a word ]

When you see her walking
[Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]

When she's scared
[ Protect her ]

When she steals your favorite hat
[ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night]

When she teases you
[ Tease her back and make her laugh ]

When she doesn't answer for a long time
[ reassure her that everything is okay ]


When she looks at you with doubt
[ Back yourself up with the truth]

When she says that she likes you
[ she really does more than you could understand ]

When she grabs your hands
[ Hold hers and play with her fingers ]

When she bumps into you
[ bump into her and make her laugh ]

When she tells you a secret
[ keep it safe and untold ]

When she looks into your eyes
[ don't look away until she does ]


When you say you're going to call her
[call her even if you're drunk off your ass]


- Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything.

- When she's mad hug, her tight and don't let go

- When she says she's ok dont believe it, talk to her


- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

- Treat her like she's all that matters to you.

- Stay up all night with her when she's sick.

- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid.


- Give her the world.

- Let her wear your clothes.

- When she's bored and sad, hang out with her.

- Let her know she's important.

- Kiss her in the pouring rain.

- When she runs to you crying, the first thing you say is;

"Who's ass am I kicking baby?"


[TXT] Kung dhlan k


Kung dhlan
k ng
pghhwalay
ng dlwng
ta0ng
ngmhalan
at ung
inwan
bglang
snbi sau:




MANGAAGAW!
AHAS!




aba!
Sagutn
m xa..


sbhn
m:



"sSSssSsSs..." gd am

[TXT] Sa tuwing pinagmamasdan ko ang bawat pagsikat ng araw...

Sa tuwing (Whenever I)
pinagmamasdan ko ang (gaze at)
bawat pagsikat ng araw.. (every sunrise..)

Nasisilaw ako. Ü (I get blinded by the glare. :-D)
hehehe..


gudmurneng!Ü

[RAW] [who is ronjie?] Could you (or your baby) be bullied in school because of your (or his/her) name?

Enter the following address in your web browser:

http://babynamesworld.parentsconnect.com/suitability_of_Xxxx.html

where Xxxx is your name with the first letter only capitalized. If your name does not come out, they will automatically do a search for names containing the first few letters of your name. For example, when I type:

http://babynamesworld.parentsconnect.com/suitability_of_Ronwaldo.html

a search of names containing 'Ron' comes out (170 names contain 'Ron'!). I look up Ronald or Ronaldo, the closest name match. It's only 2 out of 5 stars. When I click on the search item 'Ronald,' I am directed to:

http://babynamesworld.parentsconnect.com/meaning_of_Ronald.html

I find that Ronald is within the 200th to 300th most popular name in the US. The highest ranking it got was 3rd, during the 1930s to the 1950s.
The name Ronaldo is somewhere between the 700th and 900th most commonly used names in the US. When I click on the "Considering this name?" tab for Ronaldo, I am directed to:

http://babynamesworld.parentsconnect.com/suitability_of_Ronaldo.html

which again contains survey results on if people with this name would advise it to parents as a baby name, if people commonly mispronounce or incorrectly spell the name (and also in other languages), if people with this name are bullied a lot because of their name and how it can be used for bullying, and finally if people with this name like the name. Very informative. I have a couple of baby names already in mind that turned out positive/optimistic results. :-D

Thursday, February 5, 2009

[TXT] Silence

Silence doesn't always mean yes, it may also mean no but it's better left unsaid.

Anger doesn't always mean hatred, it could just be a way of coping up.

Laughter doesn't always mean happiness, sometimes it's just a mask.

Tears don't always mean sorrow, they may also be the outlet of joy.

Staying away doesn't always mean it's the end, it may also mean the best beginning.

[TXT] Unselfish & noble

"Unselfish & noble actions r d most radiant pages n d biography of souls"

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

[TXT] God promises...

God promises no easy lyf or days w/o troubles, trials n temptatns. He never promises dat lyf wil be perfect. He does not call his childrn2a playgrnd, but 2a battleground. Amen!

[TXT] Good news!

Good news! During the most trying moments, the greatest service we can give is to keep the fire of hope burning. It doesn't mean that we should falsify the.. reality of suffering. Rather, we can inspire others by forging forward instead of running away, drive by God's promise that all bad things come to an end.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

[TXT] Ang pari at ang multo

PARI: Msmang espiritu lumayas ka s kwart0ng ito! Lumayas ka!


MULTO: Ang taray! room m0?!

[TXT] a doctor & an engineer

a doctor & an engineer fell in luv w/ d same pretty nurse..d engr had to attend a seminar 4 a wk.. engr told d nurse 'il b away 4 a wk but i hav a present 4 u but dnt open it til i leave'.. wen she unwrapd d box, she found 7 apples & a n0te:


an apple a day kips d doctor away..

Monday, February 2, 2009

[TXT] If love is a game...

"If love is a game,


I DEMAND a rematch!"

_banat ng mga hindi maka-m0ve on.. Haha.. :-P

[who is ronjie?] I think that... I don't like...

I think that when you haven't completed your M.S. degree yet, you DON'T HAVE an M.S. degree yet. I don't like it when people fill forms that look like this:

Undergraduate Degree: _____________
Graduate Degree: _________________

like this:

Undergraduate Degree: B.S. Civil Engineering
Graduate Degree: M.S. Civil Engineering (24 units completed)

People, the form asks for a degree, not units. 24 units doesn't mean you already have a DEGREE, if a thesis or more units are required to obtain the degree. Finish the course first. Units are the equivalent of attendance to seminars, not a DEGREE. If there is no diploma program at that school that is the equivalent of the units you've taken, you don't even have a DIPLOMA. I'm not trying to say I'm better than other people here; I'm just pointing out facts. And I think it's just
illogical to be doing that "I have a masters' degree (24 units)" thing. But I guess people need to impress other people. Hey, I've attended and completed PhD courses in wind engineering. But I don't ever put "PhD (units)". Because I haven't EARNED the degree yet.

Well, this is just my opinion? What do you think? Am I being a bad person when I do this pointing out of other people's lies?

Sunday, February 1, 2009

[TXT] sarap...

srap sa pkirmdm pg may ka "iloveu" ka,

o kya ung may ngttnong, "kumain k n b?"

sbay sbing, "ingat ka ah"

lalo na pg may cnsbhan ka, "i miss u"

pro kung

wla..

dnt lose hope..

pde nmang...

i love me!

kumain na ba me?

ingat me ah.

i miss me!

wer na me?

dito na me!


Haha! Self-supporting db... Ü

[TXT] Blessings

G0d has manifested his l0ve 4 me thru d pe0ple he brings 2 my life.

they never cease 2 amaze me..
I call dem "blessings"..


I call 1 of dem
"YOU"!

gbu! :-D

[repeat] [Book Review] Veronika Decides to Die [Paulo Coelho]

This is a repeat article originally posted on 5/17/08. I do not necessarily reflect the same views and beliefs today as I did back when I originally wrote this piece.

RATING: 5 out of 5

Can you imagine that? It has been just over a month since my last post, and I have already finished a book that I haven't even planned yet on reading a month ago. Well it took me a while to read this book. Usually, for Coelho novels, I can finish them in one afternoon.

Veronika Decides to Die.....

You know how some people intentionally put you to misery, leave you in agony, increase your anxiety, and all that... And then in the end, you find out, it was all a twist; a modus operandi, maybe a prank. You are actually richer than you are, and you have 15 billion pesos in the bank, left by your great grandmother who intentionally wrote in her will that her first great grandson (or granddaughter) shall inherit all her riches, no one else.

And so, can you imagine how you feel this very moment?

I loved Veronika Decides to Die because I met some people with very interesting character and very interesting lives, although I never had that interest because it is easy to judge a book by its cover... And secondly, because Paulo Coelho is just simply smart. He got me again in this novel.

Coelho is one author who writes novels which I want to finish. You cannot predict at all (or maybe you could but... you could get so much into the story!) the ending or what will happen next, you'll meet fascinating people... It helps that Coelho novels are short. Haha.

While By the River Piedra was a little more predictable... And The Five People You Meet In Heaven was very predictable (not even halfway through the book) except for a few details and well, yeah, it's got a message, but its characters were less interesting... Hey, it's hard to write a novel after all!

Veronika Decides to Die is a story you should read. It's one hell of a ride. It's a great story. Not your usual bacon & eggs, but it is cooked to perfection. The scenes and the characters are very vivid, as By the River Piedra and most other Coelho novels offer. Or, I might not have read that much yet. Did I tell you that I have something to say about Paulo Coelho in thoughts?

Next in Line (for reading): Eleven Minutes (latest novel by Paulo Coelho)

[sub-labels: CPC books]

[repeat] [thoughts] How are you, Ronjie?

This is a repeat of an article originally posted on 14 April 2004. I do not necessarily reflect the same views and beliefs today.

I feel like a bird that found itself lost in the middle of the ocean and had to travel for miles on end to reach shore. I am feeling drained, very tired, and not thinking of anything else but getting a lot of rest; feeling shocked, saying to myself, “I went through that?”; and to some extent, feeling relieved that it’s all over, hoping that there would be no important, lengthy trips I have to make soon.

The damage has been done. Recuperation is necessarily next.

For more than 12 months in a row now, I had nothing but work, school, and (some) social life (not to mention a little “romantic” life with a sad ending). Right now, I feel so tired, physically, mentally, and emotionally, my spiritual side has also suffered, and yet it is now I need it most. More than 12 months ago, I did a lot of “fun” things. A lot of sports and workouts, night-outs (“gimmicks”), and all that. I was able to watch movies at theaters more often than, well, now. For the past 12 months, I could still count with my two hands how many movies I saw at a theater. And now, after that 12 months or so, I’ve come to play more “mindless” games: Snake and Opposite (Reversi) on my 3-year old Nokia phone, and Minesweeper on my computer. Now, I sleep early and wake up early. Now, I do not know what is the latest in music and in fashion. I’m now an oldie!

Ah, how the mind, heart, body, & soul are so interconnected. One falls, the others follow. No wonder. That is probably why God created women, to provide that redundancy that men need. Unfortunately, one reason I am in this situation is precisely that, that I thought there was this one person who would provide the heart when I lost heart, the mind when I lose my mind, the strength when my body is weak, and the spirit to help lift my spirit when it is down. I was wrong.

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Ex-friends, lovers and estranged family members who have been cut out of the writer's life should refrain from reading their journal. If the relationship has ended, there is no reason you should get daily updates on the person's life. If you simply can't help yourself, do it quietly, and never repeat what you read or use it to hurt the writer.

Feedback and initiating contact

If they have a guestbook, sign it. Compliments will always be graciously accepted and appreciated. Criticisms and reproaches are fine if you have a problem with something, but try to remain constructive and not be an asshole. No one is forcing you to give out your opinions, so if you don't have anything remotely positive to say, it may be best to keep quiet.

When contacting a person for the first time, have a clue. If they have a detailed biography and personal information that describes their life from the day they were born, chances are they won't appreciate you wasting their time asking them how old they are or where they live. Writers put a lot of thought and time into their sites, so take the time to read the information they provide you with before you ask for more.

Never assume a writer owes you any response. They may receive from a few to hundreds of messages per day. Some will gladly write back immediately, others will never reply. Try not to take it personally, because chances are it has more to do with their schedule than anything else. If you get upset and nasty about feeling rejected, you will probably ruin any chances you had of befriending the person.

Don't delude yourself into thinking that you will be as important to the writer as he/she is to you. Remember, you are peering in on their life, sharing their thoughts, and though they may become quite special to you, you remain a mystery to them. If they are cold or unreceptive to your advances, keep in mind that you are a stranger to them at this point, and they may or may not want to keep it that way. It's entirely their choice.

Don't be a psycho stalker.

You shouldn't contact people with messenger services unless they list their handles on their website. If you got it from someone else, forget you ever had it, they probably meant to keep it somewhat private.

A writer has the right to stop writing at any time for any reason they see fit, and at no point must they justify or explain these reasons to you or any of their readers. It's their weblog, they can do with it as they please.

Offensive language and materials

The internet is a place that encourages free and creative expression, and as in any environment where people are given this freedom, conflict may arise. If an author uses language or materials that offend you, leave. Contacting the person or their isp, demanding they remove the content or change their ways is absurd because you are viewing their content of your own free will by visiting their site. Simply stop going there and you won't have to see whatever it is you don't like about the site. An obvious exception to this would be if someone were providing illegal materials, in which case it would be appropriate to complain to their isp or contact wuthorities.


Copyright and courtesy

Never ask someone to make you a layout, to help with your site or show you how to do a certain script or graphic effect that they have on their site, unless they specifically offer their help. There are plenty of tutorials available to help you, just use a search engine to find what you need.

Never use anything off a person's site, be it writing, images or html code, unless they say otherwise. People are very attached to their work and don't usually respond well when others help themselves to it. Copyright is protected by law and in effect the minute something is created, whether the author has a © notice or not. There are online tools where you can learn about copyright laws like What is Copyright?and Redistribution In Graphics Has To Stop.

Under no circumstances should you ever direct link anything, this includes link buttons and any other graphics the writer may offer. Direct linking is when you type something like to display the yahoo link button, instead of actually saving it and uploading it on to your server. It is essentially bandwidth theft, because it uses data transfer, and the owner of the server has to pay for it. Always save the image and upload it to your own server unless the author specifically states you can do otherwise.

[TXT] we...

we kip on stickng 2 hu we lyk,
dats y we nvr notice d0s hu lyk us;
sumtyms wir dyin 4 sum1 hu dsnt care,
wyl sumbdy s alredy dead tryin to please us.

[who is ronjie?] I don't like...

I don't like people who are so confident about what they're saying, such
that they're so convincing, but they don't really know what they're
saying, but they're so convincing (to those who don't know). Have you
encountered someone like that? What do you think about those kinds of
people?

[TXT] Try this & believe

1. Simply say a small prayer for the person who sent you this. FATHER, bless this person in whatever it is that YOU know he/she may be needing this moment. Amen.
2. Send it to other people as many as you can. Within hours, many people have prayed for you & you caused a multitude of people to pray to God for other people.
3. Sit back, watch the Power & Favor of God work in you!

Gud PM!Ü